Couples competing in an intimate relationship is rage!
The power game goes something like this:
- who is stronger?
- who will win?
- who will “give up first?”
It is a game of hidden rage.
There are many layers of rage but you can ask yourself: does my rage towards my partner stem from:
- Unresolved issues when have in our relationship? Have I given my heartbreak, disappointment, needs a voice or has it turned into rage?
- Collective rage of the gender I am ie women’s rage?
- Systemic rage; Who is this rage loyal to in my family, or lineage?
- Unresolved trauma?
True intimacy cannot thrive in competition, someone has to fly the white flag and offer to change it.
