Have you ever caught yourself spiralling into stress over a single thought? Maybe it’s “I’m not good enough,” or “They don’t respect me.” That one belief, left unchecked, can shape
Every Behaviour is Trying to Get a Need Met You may know that I counsel couples, having trained with Dr Stan Tatkin, Dr Tammy Nelson, Dr Emily Nagoski, and been
When life throws you lemons here are keys to thriving rather than just coping! Over the last 35 years I have been experimenting with how to regulate the nervous system,
Recently I experienced a deep hurt and betrayal, something I had not experienced for a very long time. What was surprising amongst the directly experiencing the feelings of rage, hatred,
Recently I took a break and ticked off a bucket list expedition and kayaked amongst the islands of Raja Ampat in Indonesian West Papua, on the border of the Indian
Take a moment and think of your intimate partner. Become aware of the feelings present. If your experience is wholehearted joy or a quiet stillness then your connection with each
Our whole life experience is filtered through beliefs. Our relationships and how we respond to each other is filtered through beliefs. Beliefs change the way we see the world, ourselves,
We are wired to our environment Modern attachment theory points to attachment towards a primary caregiver but what if we are missing a massive attachment piece? What if we contemplated
Ukraine Russian war had broken out and we felt helpless to make a difference, yet in this digital age we wanted to ensure that we could at least help. Humanising
Every Behaviour is Trying to Get a Need Met You may know that I counsel couples, having trained with Dr Stan Tatkin, Dr Tammy Nelson, Dr Emily Nagoski, and been
One of the questions asked in couple therapy is what connection rituals do you have? Keeping the juiciness of intimacy alive is paramount in sustaining couples in their challenging and
(Trigger warning about growing up with domestic violence) For 15 years, I found myself trapped in a relentless cycle of physical and emotional abuse between my parents. I spent my
