Have you ever caught yourself spiralling into stress over a single thought? Maybe it’s “I’m not good enough,” or “They don’t respect me.” That one belief, left unchecked, can shape
Every Behaviour is Trying to Get a Need Met You may know that I counsel couples, having trained with Dr Stan Tatkin, Dr Tammy Nelson, Dr Emily Nagoski, and been
When life throws you lemons here are keys to thriving rather than just coping! Over the last 35 years I have been experimenting with how to regulate the nervous system,
Recently I experienced a deep hurt and betrayal, something I had not experienced for a very long time. What was surprising amongst the directly experiencing the feelings of rage, hatred,
Recently I took a break and ticked off a bucket list expedition and kayaked amongst the islands of Raja Ampat in Indonesian West Papua, on the border of the Indian
Take a moment and think of your intimate partner. Become aware of the feelings present. If your experience is wholehearted joy or a quiet stillness then your connection with each
Our whole life experience is filtered through beliefs. Our relationships and how we respond to each other is filtered through beliefs. Beliefs change the way we see the world, ourselves,
We are wired to our environment Modern attachment theory points to attachment towards a primary caregiver but what if we are missing a massive attachment piece? What if we contemplated
Ukraine Russian war had broken out and we felt helpless to make a difference, yet in this digital age we wanted to ensure that we could at least help. Humanising
As we watch the world rapidly changing I have been contemplating a question, one that I have been researching for about 40 years as a therapist. The question is:“How do
Moving from Peer Orientation to Parent Orientation As a therapist of four decades there is one issue that baffled me until recently and that is the increased rage in a
A little neuroscience hack! As we launch into everyday, and the outside world, it is important to create rituals that help you stay connected. One of those is the “Welcome
